Triggers

This is about a good kind of trigger I've recently discovered.  You know how sometimes it feels like you're in a battle, often with your own lovely child?  I was wrestling Adam into a diaper that he REALLY didn't want to wear.  I was holding him down and thinking, "Ugh.  Shouldn't he be thanking me for changing his diaper?  Maybe next time I'll just let him hang out in a dirty mess. I am going to win this one!",  and with determination I held him down and almost had him pinned.  Then an idea hit me, "this is not what winning looks like".  It kind of stopped me in my tracks.  It helped focus my mind on what I truly want, and that has nothing to do with a diaper.  I picked Adam up, gave him a hug, had him sit on my lap for a bit - yes nakey bummed -  and then a few moments later I put his diaper on and we both considered ourselves winners.  So in my moments where I get white knuckled and dangerously focused on something I don't really care that much about, I say, "this is not what winning looks like".  And it's helped.